Happy Mother’s day!
Recently, I was on the phone with my mom, and I was having one of those days where the fact that I have nobody close in my life and I’m going to grow old and die alone was sort of getting to me, so I unwisely confided a bit of my loneliness to her. Bad call. She immediately saw it as an opportunity to assail me again with her ex gay campaign.
My Mother is of the mistaken belief that Homosexuality is both sinful, wrong and correctible. If I wont correct it, then I must suppress it, according to her.
back in the old days before I realized that her view was completely impervious to enlightenment, due to her core deep religious indoctrination, I used to try to reason it with her. Her basic argument is that Homosexuality itself is not evil. However, any and all expression of it, including any affection or love for another man is evil, on the grounds that it does not promote promulgation of the species. So, using that basis for argument, I would ask her these questions:
#1 Are you currently capable of becoming pregnant? (no)
#2 Given the fact that you are no longer able to breed, are you still having sexual relations with your husband? ( of course!)
Given the basis of her argument, why would it be okfor her to have sex with no hope of children? what about couples who are sterile? Her answer is always that it is an expression of their holy love for each other. she is unable or unwilling to see the enormous cruelty and hypocrisy of those beliefs. And it hurts me. Deeply.
The point of all this is, I wanted to share with you and get your thoughts about the package she sent me in the mail last week as a result of our phone conversation. Look at this:
It’s a 3 disc cd she sent me. here’s the description:
this is an excellent example of the soft bigotry that we as gay men face with catholocism. “hate the sin but love the sinner” bullshit. I have not heard these discs. I doubt I ever will. I’ve been using the CD case fora coffee mug trivet (see coffee stain in the lower right corner) . That’s about all it’s good for.
I know that when I finish this post I’m going to call her for Mother’s day and she’s going to ask me what I thought of them. What should I tell her?